male privilege is being offended by a woman’s pain over sexual assault.
Many men make the mistake of equating the role of the oppressor with a sense of personal fulfillment. If they really were oppressing women, they assume, if they really were part of a dominant class, they’d experience a greater degree of happiness and satisfaction. After all, if there really was a patriarchy, isn’t it supposed to benefit men? If men really did systematically take part in the dehumanization and degradation of women, wouldn’t more men feel the tangible benefits of that oppression for themselves? In other words, they ask the plaintive question over and over again: “How can I be an oppressor when I feel unhappy and powerless?” If most men are leading lives of “quiet desperation”, then surely those same men cannot also be agents of injustice. Right?…
Hugo felt so powerless he tried to kill his girlfriend.
Oh wait no he did that because his god complex told him that she would be grateful.
I honestly forgot about this ask because it was just so inane. The anon complimented my appearance here (saying zie could not help themslves, which, of course you can) and said if more feminists looks like me, men would be more interested in feminism. This was in regards to my post about street harassment which apparently a lot of people related to.
So, here’s my tired, worn down response: I had just posted about street harassment and how it made me feel tiny, small and useless but for my appearance. You then proceed to talk about my appearance as if that’s what matters more than my words.
Do you not SEE how frustrating that is? How inappropriate at that time?
I’m all for people getting laid (if they so desire) and with strangers (if they so desire)? I’m all for compliments. I’m all for hitting on people in a respectful way.
But this was not the right place nor the right time and the fact you thought it was speaks to how you believe that all women should be accessible for viewing at all times and how we should accept that so long as the person didn’t MEAN anything by it.
Feminism, especially in its modern incarnation, is about more than just being a woman. Oh, don’t get me wrong. The day you see me crying “WHAT ABOUT TEH MENZ” will be a cold day in Hell. Feminism seeks equality by primarily addressing gender inequalities.
But there is no universal story of womanhood. Being a woman does not make me understand all women.
I have white privilege, class privilege, cis privilege and a lot of others. If I want to call myself a feminist I need to work past those. I’m applying the same rules to men.
I’m asking male feminists (or male allies, if you want to call them) to sit down and listen. If they’re willing to do that, if they’re willing to put their privilege at the door, if they’re willing to utilize their privilege to dismantle the very system that prizes them, I will call them feminists.
If you don’t feel comfortable calling men “feminists”, well okay. I don’t think that I can claim to share the same opinions of all feminist. As long as we’re working for the same goal - equality - I think we can still get along.
Fuck off, kyriarchy.