also like: honestly, even if I believed Hugo Schwyzer could be a redeemable human being I wouldn’t believe it would be being a Professional Male Feminist who gets paid to teach women about their oppression when women struggle to get teaching positions when Actual Rapist and Attempted Murderer Hugo Schwyzer is you know, a narcissistic piece of shit who shouldn’t be employed in any capacity that places him a position as a feminist who can educate women and girls about the sort of violence he himself has enacted against women

men who muse about how all straight women have “exceptions” and would have sex with at least with one other woman need to stop watching porn and certainly need to stop pretending they see women as anything other than objects.

men keep talking about fluid female sexuality is because they want to jerk off over us and then don’t want any of us to really be lesbians

men who only become better people if women will touch their butts are bad people

men who care about how facials make them feel as people are bad people - let him jizz on your face, for equality. who cares how it makes you feel. it makes him feel clean! what is cultural context. 

what I’m saying is Hugo Schwyzer keeps writing articles about how women need to comfort men by performing certain sex acts as feminism and that is pretty in line with abuser logic - do this, or I won’t be a good person. it’ll be all your fault.

reject butthole feminism.

(butthole feminism was coined by mgraceee)

But seriously, do you think that Hugo and Jezebel are just reaching into a hat and fucking with us.

But seriously, do you think that Hugo and Jezebel are just reaching into a hat and fucking with us.

Indexing your sex life (Jezebel)

dignified-and-old:

desliz:

galesofnovember:

mousesinger:

I saw this and thought,  ”wow. I really, really have a different set of sexual experiences and expectations for my sexual experiences than the person who wrote this.”

Then I saw it was written by Hugo Schwyzer.  Which makes this sentence extra ironic: 

Like Kevin’s partner, she demanded I throw it out, making the classically false claim that true fidelity requires a willingness to erase the record of the past.

ghfgegfhregfurgef at everything, tbh

but leave it up to Hugo to be oblivious to the idea that people you’ve slept with are not objects to be listed and may not want to be recorded like that, for anyone to see; to him every woman is an object whose only value lies in what they did for him, after all, all just learning experiences and anecdotes whose feelings are not relevant and do not need to be taken into account.

So what does Hugo Schwyzer do to note the women he’s slept with and also raped and/or tried to murder? Besides write Jezebel articles about his wacky “pre-sobriety past” 

while the worst thing about Hugo Schwyzer is that he has assaulted women, the fact that he makes a profit while smugly flagellating himself and telling men and women how to be better feminists, better people is just unbearable and is literally painful for some survivors to have to see him dole out his “hard-fought wisdom” about male privilege when no, we have so much better things to say but you keep on speaking over women like you have hurt Hugo and you get so much more money and respect talking about how you “were” an abuser but I get nothing but being told obviously the only reason I’m a feminist is because I’m oversensitive and overreacting

that also stings a lot. 

Yes. Which is why I said in my first paragraph “he mocks it [post-patriarchal depression] now”. I’m aware he’s arguing against it but he’s doing so in a such an awful way that silences survival tactics of abuse survivors. 
His entire argument rests on the idea on mocking the idea that some people (women) might sometimes have to comfort men in order to avoid violence. This is ridiculous for an abusive man to say because sometimes women do need to make abusive men feel “secure” in order for us to survive. 
He also mocks that the idea of the man as dangerous to a woman. 
Which is gross for a man who tried to kill a woman to mock. Which is gross for a man who admitted to being an ‘accidental rapist’ to mock. 

Yes. Which is why I said in my first paragraph “he mocks it [post-patriarchal depression] now”. I’m aware he’s arguing against it but he’s doing so in a such an awful way that silences survival tactics of abuse survivors. 

His entire argument rests on the idea on mocking the idea that some people (women) might sometimes have to comfort men in order to avoid violence. This is ridiculous for an abusive man to say because sometimes women do need to make abusive men feel “secure” in order for us to survive. 

He also mocks that the idea of the man as dangerous to a woman. 

Which is gross for a man who tried to kill a woman to mock. Which is gross for a man who admitted to being an ‘accidental rapist’ to mock. 

so what do YOU guys hate most about Hugo Schwyzer?

to anyone criticizing Hugo Schwyzer

Hugo ol’ boy is an admitted narcissict who likely tracks his tag on Tumblr.

He also has the lovely habit of posting obviously-not-going-to-happen threats (I wish a meterorite would fall on him, I wish he would fall in a volcano etc, things that really won’t happen) on his Twitter as evidence that his critics are just a bunch of hysterical, overreacting mean girls. 

I also have the suspicion that he’s more likely to link to especially disenfranchised women over more privileged women because you know. He’s an awful human being who very much takes advantage of his WASP-y background to literally get away with attempted murder. He knows how to work the system and he know who the system will let him hurt the most. 

He of course will not retire or stop from writing and profitting off abusing and mistreating women and calling it ‘feminism’. He’s an admitted abuser of women.

Nor will sites like Role/Reboot or Jezebel stop publishing him because they don’t care about women so much as they care about profit and page clicks and Schwyzer does bring that in. 

But I think criticizing him is important because I want people to Google him and find out what he’s done to women, how he hurt so many women and how he profits off hurting women and refuses to accept how women might not trust him afterwards and are triggered and upset by his very presence in nominally pro-women spaces.