I don’t know but;

so non-survivor allies should always support survivors while we cope and process our trauma. if we talk about killing our abusers, shut up and let us talk. if we joke about it, shut up and let us talk. if we don’t want to talk about it, shut up.

survival is hard enough!! 

but the thing is!

a pretty popular trend is that non-survivors really want to get in on the revenge-fantasy stuff.

like: so many non-survivors have these hero complexes that I see peeking out (I’d help you get revenge, consistently talking about going out and shooting particular peoples’ rapists, talking about what our coping mechanisms)

and it grosses me the fuck out because I am a victim but I need to own my victimhood for my benefit, certainly not to make non-survivors feel better about themselves as feminists or whatever or make you feel fierce

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    THANK YOU. That was awesome commentary on this….post

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    I’m often suspicious of the men in my life who do this because its often their first reaction and a.) in comes instead...

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    No, I’m talking specifically about the non-survivor revenge-fantasy stuff, the whole bringing it up and pushing the...

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    yes that person is dumb but idk how i feel about this survivor/non-survivor binary, especially if we’re not talking...

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    ^^^ dissimilarto’s commentary is amazing for me (and me only), I feel supported when my friends offer revenge against my...

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    god SHUT UP i can’t even think of anything to say other than shut up and i hate you

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    ok but “moral equivalent” though? idk man idk, im not into that. i rly don’t go for this idea that striking back is just...

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    if i had a time machine i’d get it up to 88 miles-per-hour and go back in time to just before you hit “submit” on your...

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    there’s a lot of hate in my heart and right now, so much of it is directed at you

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    I wholeheartedly agree! I also find that this applies to me through being a survivor of domestic violence. I was abused...

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    Idk.. Because I couldn’t hate my abuser and still can’t, I always liked that other people hated him for me. I always...

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