"I grew up poor, hated, the victim of physical, emotional, and sexual violence, and I knew that suffering does not ennoble. It destroys. To resist destruction, self-hatred, or lifelong hopelessness, we have to throw off the conditioning of being despised, the fear of becoming that they that is talked about so dismissively, to refuse lying myths and easy moralities, to see ourselves as human, flawed and extraordinary. All of us—extraordinary."
Two or Three Things I Know for Sure by Dorothy Allison is an incredibly important book. Allison writes about bravado, about her sexual abuse, about BDSM, about poverty, about lesbianism. If you can, give it a read.
Here’s her poem “The Women Who Hate Me"