Fuck off, kyriarchy.: Archive

Fuck off, kyriarchy.

February 2012

92 posts

goddamnitshera asked: Do you think Refn's point was more Carey Mulligan specific than a white women thing? And also, her character *did* need to be protected.

“Director Nicolas Winding Refn’s reasoning behind this change was that Mulligan...”

– On why Carey Mulligan was cast in Drive, instead of a Latina woman. - Afro Punk Several icky things here The idea that women have to be protected by men The idea that only white women deserve to be protected by men The Strong Woman Of Color Trope is really racist. It’s the idea that white...

“Black and Third World people are expected to educate white people as to our...”

– Audre Lorde (via lunetlautre)

“In August of 1990 I found myself laying on my stomach in the woods with a pair...”

– Kathleen Hanna, Our Hit Parade (via grrrlstudies) I plan on getting a ‘god is gay’ tattoo (via girlsgetbusyzine) This is why Nate always buys Canadian Club (via psychotropicpolitics) Canadian Club: official sponsors of pretty much every act of feminist vandalism/terror that I can remember (and...

The Bechdel Test and Race in Popular Fiction

crystalsavestheday: 1. It has to have two POC in it. 2. Who talk to each other. 3. About something other than a white person. No Joss Whedon show passes, neither does Supernatural, or Being Human. Veronica Mars passes, but doesn’t pass the original Bechdel Test. Check out a few more here. [gif. of a dark skinned masculine person holding up a sign saying “C’mon...

So You Think You're A Good Ally

Newsflash: Good allies don’t make this shit about them, don’t complain when people who they are allied to start criticizing them and certainly don’t make the conversation about them.

“Because when we find ourselves believing that killing a man makes us more of a...”

– Jay Smooth, founder of New York City’s longest-running hip hop radio program, WBAI’s Underground Railroad and video blogger. (via spunkywarcannon) Gotta reblog. This is on my favorite quotes list on Facebook for goodness sakes. Jay Smooth is probably the most insightful person on the internet....

In Which I Don't Understand Stuff, but Try to...

psychobrandon: I just can’t understand the hate for Hugo Schwyzer. After years of working to improve the lives of women, he admitted freely that over a decade ago he was a scumbag, and that he knew this, and it was wrong, and he was genuinely sorry for what he had done. And despite the fact that NOW he is one of the best male feminist voices we have, people suddenly wanted him gone (or in some...

Jailbreak the Patriarchy: Or Shitty Ideas

So autumn-and-eve posted on her tumblr about an extension called “Jailbreak the Patriarchy” saying that if anyone uses it to unfollow her. Curious, I wandered off to look at it and holy shit. Jailbreak the Patriarchy is shit. It’s an extension for Google Chrome. It turns all male pronouns into female pronouns and vice versa. It doesn’t take gender neutral pronouns into...

ladyatheist: jensenjaundice: makemyeyesburn: omg. DYING. some tramp just said my dreamcatcher tattoo is offensive towards native americans. BITCH IF ANYTHING ITS A FUCKING COMPLIMENT. my dreamcatcher has special meaning to me. i dont know whether to envy or pity you…that yr life has obviously been so free of any real suffering that you care enough to make a tumblr reblogging girls with...

Misogyny? In MY faux-queer theory?

Seriously, even if you honestly believe that sexuality is just super fluid and that everyone’s really pansexual you have no right to say that shit to anyone. Especially if you’re a man talking to a lesbian. Because I’ve only ever seen people tell my lesbian friends that their sexualities aren’t real, I’ve never seen someone tell my gay friends. And if you...

violetv5: friendlyangryfeminist: When straight folks tell LGB+ folks to just come out about our sexuality, to be honest, to “be brave” - I get super angry and frustrated. Coming out isn’t an obligation, it’s tiresome and it never. ends and somedays to some people I just can’t dredge up the strength to. Straight folks - basically never tell queer folks how we should live our lives. the...

When straight folks tell LGB+ folks to just come out about our sexuality, to be honest, to “be brave” - I get super angry and frustrated. Coming out isn’t an obligation, it’s tiresome and it never. ends and somedays to some people I just can’t dredge up the strength to. Straight folks - basically never tell queer folks how we should live our lives.

The current political climate in America is baffling. Being anti-birth control is the least pro-choice stance one can take while at the same time being the most pro-abortion stance possible.

“But let’s not fool ourselves into thinking that this is just a problem of men...”

– Jessica Valenti (via feministhistorian)

joshishollywood: If I see one more post with “TW: Spoilers” on it I am going to lose it I swear to god That’s not how those fucking work

“I think we can all recognize that the “it’s a joke excuse” is the most...”

– Loose Talk: You can take your “just joking” and shove it. (via shitkrieg) I will always reblog this when I can. (via racemash)

The Gaytriarchy Attacks!

Yeah, I’m always going to feel uneasy that the queer folks who profit the most (goal-wise and financially) off LGBT+ politics are white, affluent cis men when most victims of anti-LBGT+ violence are transgender, low-income women of color. And now kids, we’re going to have a test on what intersectionality actually means!

"South Africa is Oprah's territory": A Map of... →

Ego Trips What can Africa do for you? “My life changed, really, there.” —Bono “Totally changed my life.” —Alicia Keys “It’s changed my life.” —Country singer Michelle Wright “This trip has changed my life.” —NFL player Reggie Bush “One of those things which will sort of change your life.” —American Idol’s Simon Cowell ...

Do you know Yuri Kochiyama?

dreams-from-my-father: ancestryinprogress: I’m giving this woman flowers every single day that she is alive to let her know that cradling Malcolm X in her arms as he lay dying is the most powerful thing she could have done for him in that moment, in that historical moment in our lives. You see because she was still is an ardent social rights/social justice activist—on the behalf of Japanese...

icewomancometh: One of the most informative and useful posts I’ve read about Hugo Schwyzer Are Women Human? explores the implications and problems of defenses used to guard Hugo Schwyzer’s position in feminist circles. She also places emphasis on his present actions, demonstrating that Schwyzer is an ongoing threat. An excerpt: … The discussion about which men belong in feminism is allowing...

“It reminds me of the “bike to work” movement. That is also portrayed as white,...”

– comment left on the Racialious blog post “Sustainable Food & Priviledge: Why is Green always White (and Male and Upper-Class)” (via ouiominy)

Sometimes I see men on the feminism tag...

My self respect cannot and should not be defined by men. Self respect isn’t defined by how many consensual sex acts I engage in, it isn’t defined in what I wear. This isn’t news to anyone who’s moved past feminism 101 and yet I need to repeat it over and over again.

So, if people submit more stories about their feminist or feminist-allied partners I’d be happy to let my other followers read them! If you’re not in a sexual relationship with your partner I’d love to hear about that as well. That being said, I’m going to sleep so it can wait till mornin’

socialistguineapigs asked: My boyfriend is an ally and is very open to learning more about feminism. He listens to my frustrations and empathises with me. I refuse to date a man who isn't an ally or a feminist. And my sex drive is very high. So don't ever tell me that feminists and allies don't get laid.

donttypeangry asked: The sex I've had with my sensitive ally boyfriend has been the best I've ever had in my life. And I give him a hundred and ten percent, hot, passionate, uninhibited lovin'. In all sorts of positions, with all sorts of toys and what-not. It's respectful, it's enthusiastic, it's loving and it's fuelled by knowing that he cares about me as a human being. ...

“No one could blame American women here if they all suddenly decided to leave the...”

– John Oliver on American contraception debates, The Bugle 183 (via sixpencesoulcake) God, I wish I had the money to do so. (via lord-kitschener)

Anonymous asked: I love that my boyfriend is an ally, it's incredibly sexy. A lot of the time when he and I talk on the phone, I'll start venting about feminist related topics (slut shaming, rape culture, birth control) and he'll vent with me about how frustrated it makes him. If he's not familiar with an issue, he asks me about it and is genuinely interested in learning more. He supports what...

Anonymous asked: That anon REALLY pissed me off with that "never get laid" jazz. Seriously, getting laid is the last thing on my list of priorities. Why would I be worried about getting laid? What I AM worried about is that women aren't being treated as my equal when they have every right in the world to and I don't see them as any less than that. I want women to be treated properly so fuck...

Anonymous asked: My boyfriend, while being wonderful about supporting me in my feminism, has a "What about the menz!" moment at least once or twice a month, and says as a white cis straight man he feel oppressed. It is then I inform him to "Check his privilege". I don't know why I put up with it. I really don't. But other than that, he's a damn good guy.

Anonymous asked: my boyfriend is awesome and our sex life is awesome and it gets me going when I see him reading the SCUM Manifesto, haha

jejunestarr asked: Male allies are literally the hottest people ever so idk what that anon is even talking about... Dear anon, the only men who DON'T get laid are men who aren't allies. Sexism isn't going to get you laid.

cacophonouschoas asked: To the "They never get laid" anon. 1. If we don't want to have sex with someone, it's our right. 2. Doing something "To get laid" makes you sound like a jerk. 3. I would rather have sex with an ally than with someone like you. If a man supports the feminist movement, that makes him sexy as hell in my eyes. Someone who doesn't support it has ZERO chance of getting...

Hey folks, why don’t you send me stories of your feminist partner(s) (male ally, or lady or non-binary!) and why that turns your crank - emotional, sexual or both!

lettherebecramp asked: My boyfriend, who is a wonderful male ally, would like to inform anon that he has been thoroughly fucked by his feminist girlfriend at least twice a day over the past weekend. Checkmate.

Anonymous asked: Why would any guy want to be a "Male Identified Ally"? To get yelled at and be deemed sexually inadequate by women? I know "Male allies" and they all get walked over by feminist identified women. They never get laid. Only an idiot would be a "male identified ally". Get a clue.

No True Scotsman

I get a bit anxious when white feminists talk about how no real feminists would be racist - Uh, I agree with you but when white feminists like myself say stuff like that I can’t help but read it as white women telling women of color that their complaints of racism in feminism are invalid, because that’s not our feminism.

From feministfilm to you: a [probably] exhaustive...

feministfilm: Out of around 130: Yvonne Hudson, 1980-1981 (featured player only) Danitra Vance, 1985-1986 Ellen Cleghorne, 1991-1995 Maya Rudolph, 2000-2007 Nasim Pedrad, 2009-present That’s it. You’re welcome.

Basically my favorite thing about being a Catholic high school alum is the rampant anti-choice rhetoric on my Facebook. I feel like a spy! This is how the other half thinks! This is their logic! It’s mostly about hating women but look at it go!

“Planned Parenthood also retweeted one of its followers, Philadelphia Weekly...”

– From Planned Parenthood tweets picture of all-male panel at hearing on birth control by Jonathan Easley of The Hill. (via stufficareabout)

Anonymous asked: Hey, first, I love your blog. Second, while I find some of the satire of misandry as ryking defines it funny, I feel that yes, misandry is real, and a very valid reaction. I can understand hating all men. I was beaten on a regular basis, and for a very long time, I hated men. I got over it, but I don't blame women who hang onto it, because there's still a small part of me that hates men....

soultired asked: Can I stand in solidarity with you over that Feminazi thing? It's bullshit what they did, and that now they're expecting you, as a minority feminist, to put your feelings aside so they can feel better about a *joke*. Fuck them. You're awesome.

And before I get messages talking about how I need to stand in solidarity with other feminists; lol no. I get the message, quite often, that feminists shouldn’t be seen fighting. That we have to agree to take our disputes behind a veil where anti-feminists won’t see. That when we fight we are hurting our cause. I would like to disagree. Not respectfully but with a giant neon sign...

so this feminazis for misandry thing...

unknowablewoman: brogigayo: partysoft: this might come as a shock to some of you, but I’m not actually a fan of this “campaign.” I am a great fan of jokes about misandry. I have two tags devoted to it here on this tumblr of mine. but I’m not a fan of a “campaign” of misandry jokes that cheerfully accepts men into the fold. men participating? get the fuck out. you’re not one of the good...

Basically if you are fighting with Jewish feminists why your use of the swastika is acceptable because it’s a joke and we shouldn’t be mad: I hate you. I hate you, I hate you, I hate you. I am mad at you. I am angry, do not use or defend that symbol in even a joking way.

tw: racial slurs, racism

hippierev0lution: okay, so i’ve heared romanis telling people to not use the word gypsy and comparing it with n*gga. most black people don’t consider it a racial slur anymore because they’ve ”taken it back” and call eachother it, and when other people use it its not as offensive. instead of complaining, why dont you just do that with the word gypsy?:-) i’m not like, trying to offend anyone,...

“Racism is still a really big issue in this country especially around immigration...”

– Hari Kondabolu - Mexican Stereotypes (via theangryblackwoman)